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BE CAUTIOUS ACCUSING HUSBAND OF AN AFFAIR
I think my husband is having an affair with someone he works with. When I asked him, he denied it and said that if if he was going to have an affair, it definately would not be with her.
HE GOT VERY DEFENSIVE , which I have heard is a sign.
Also, when I have gone to his job to meet him for lunch or taken my daughter to sat Hi to he Daddy; they have been in close proximity of each other and she will not look me in the eye.
I try to talk with her but don't get very far before she skitters off and he look sheepish.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?

I Don't WANT TO LOSE HIM AND I SURE AS HELL DON'WANT HER THINK SHE HAS THE UPPER HAND
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Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Be very careful on how you handle this, because if tere is truly nothing going on, you may riesk your marriage if you keep bringing it up.
Woman have a thing called intuition i am a firm believer in the "Spidey " senses tingling,but you need to make sure that this is not just your jealousy.
Yes it true people who are cheating often vehemently deny it and get defensive, but so do some people who are totally innocent.
You said they have been in close proximity to one another but as long as they work together and not groping each other in the supply closet , no biggie.
If she can't look you in the eye, maybe it is because he something to her about what you were thinking Maybe she is embarrassed. Maybe she is jealous of you or maybe she doe not like you.

ON THE OTHER HAND
Perhaps she is feeling guilty and truly can not look you in the eye. If you really feel this strongly that they are doing the flunky behind your back , do your homework and keep an eye on things.
I feel the need to say that in a marriage there needs to be trust on both parts. I feel that accusations and jealousy only serve to destroy relationships,but so do affairs.
WHATEVER you do, do not let this slip out to your children,,
THIS IS NOT FOR THERE EARS.

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Mullberry Cream tarts

Monday, August 11, 2008

Recipe of the Week: Mulberry & Cream Tarts

As you can see, I just couldn't stay away from berries for very long.

When you visit the farmer's market over the weekend, someone was selling mulberries; another delicious variety I had yet to try. They look almost exactly like blackberries, except that they are smaller and grow in trees rather than bushes. They are also super sweet... Perfect dessert material!

I considered making a more conventional pie, you know, blending them up with a touch of sweetener and pouring the resulting filling on a nut crust. In the end, I opted for this slight variation of my Strawberry Shortcake. I keep coming back to this one over and over again, as I find that the cake and whipped cream's subtle flavors make for such a great way to enjoy berries.

I'm pleased with my choice as these tarts were sooooo yummylicious!



Mulberry & Cream Tarts

This recipe makes 24 tarts or one 7 " diameter cake

Cake Base
3/4 cup well packed dates, chopped
1 tablespoon lemon juice
1 tablespoon vanilla
Pinch sea salt
1 cup loosely packed left-over pulp from making milk or ground almonds
1 cup dried coconut
1/2 cup cashews

Place dates in food processor and process until a smooth paste forms. You may need to add a little water.

Then add the rest of the ingredients and mix until smooth.

If using ground almonds instead of wet almond pulp, you might want to add a couple of teaspoons of water for moisture.

Whipped Cream
1 cup cashews or a mixture of cashews and macadamia nuts
1 cup + 2 tablespoons fresh coconut milk (simply blend 1 part dried coconut with 3 parts water in high speed blender)
1/8 - 1/4 cup honey or agave nectar (depending on how sweet a tooth you have)
1 tablespoon lemon juice
1 tablespoon vanilla
Pinch sea salt
1/2 cup coconut oil, melted
1 tablespoon lecithin powder*

*Lecithin is derived from soybeans and acts as an emulsifier. Look for lecithin (preferably non-GMO), in granules or powdered form, at your local HFS. If using granules, make sure to grind them up in a high speed blender of coffee grinder.

Blend all ingredients except coconut oil and lecithin until smooth. Add oil and lecithin and blend until thoroughly mixed. Set in fridge for about 1 hr.

Berry Layer and Decoration
2 cups mulberries, de-stemmed

Assembly:
Form an even layer of cake base at the bottom of a silicon cup or muffin pan lined with plastic film.

Top with a layer of mulberries.

Finish with some whipped cream.

Put in fridge to set.

When firm, gently de-mould tarts and place on serving plates.

Decorate with mulberries and if desired, serve with Mulberry Sauce.

Mulberry Sauce
I used about 1/2 cup berries and 1 small Medjhool date blended in my food processor. (You don't need much dates as the berries have such a natural sweetness to them.)

I added a little water until I reached the desired consistency.

Carmella's Notes:
~ If you'd rather make this recipe into a cake, repeat layers once more.

~ You could sub the mulberries with whatever berries you have on hand.

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Mulberry Cobbler

Mulberry Cobbler
recipe by Sarah Ganly

2 c. mulberries
1/4 – 1/2 c. sugar
6 tbsp. butter
3/4 c. flour
2 tsp baking powder
1/2 tsp. salt
3/4 c. milk

Preheat your oven to 350 degrees . Next you will need to mix the berries with the sugar, and you can add some apple slices if you like. Sometimes I slice and chop one or two apples and throw them in for variety. After the fruit and sugar is thoroughly mixed melt the butter and pour it into an eight inch square glass dish.

Now mix all of the dry ingredients, and add the milk; remember to keep the berries separate! You can add some granola and/or oats to add some texture. You can also add some lemon zest to the batter in order to spice it up a bit. If you do not want to add these ingredients it will still be delicious, but you can always keep them in mind for latter.

A very important step in this recipe is to pour the batter into the dish. You do not want to mix the batter when it is in the dish because the butter is there first for a reason. Now that the batter is already in the pan you can add your mulberries. Sprinkle them all over the top of the batter.

This may seem like an upside down cobbler, but it is truly scrumptious, and is very easy to make. Bake this dish for about twenty minutes. You will know it is done when a knife comes out clean of batter when it is inserted in the middle of the cobbler.

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Its a birthday

Mom's busy... what about HER birthday?Posted by Ava on January 11, 2009 at 8:13pm
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Tomorrow is my birthday! Yay, I made it through another year! :)

My daughter is 16 1/2. (am I giving my age away? LOL. On her bedroom wall, she has 8"x11" photos of her in her birthday parties. Every single year.. I have given her a huge party, celebrating her life. What ever she wanted to do. Invited every friend and family member. It is important for me to celebrate the life of my daughter, and every year I have with her, and show her how much I love her and happy she is my daughter.
These parties can take months to plan.

Ooops back to MY birthday. See what I mean... LOL. We focus so much on our childs birthdays, but then what do we do for ourselves? If we do nothing, does that show them that only they are important, but we are not?

If we has adults think about our birthday, and talk about it.. people think we should grow up, don't make such a big deal out of it.. who wants everyone to know how old you are anyway? Why? Why is it that after 21, only 30,40,50, 60, 70 80, 90, and 100 are important? We have to wait 10 years to celebrate?
Do we celebrate the day we were born, or that we made it to another year, or to look forward to this age that we are becoming now? Isn't our life important at any age?

Especially as single moms, we usually don't have someone "built in" to celebrate our birthday with us. No husband to make sure he brings us flowers, a gift, and take us out to dinner. So we usually go out with friends,"the girls", family.. the kids take us to a fast food place and it ends up being for them... or we just need to be creative and make the best of it because we can't afford to do anything.

As moms we need to celebrate ourselves more. We do soooo much..
We need to take the time to take care of ourselves, think about our past, and plan our future.
We need to pamper ourselves. Even if we can't afford to go to a spa.. try to get some quiet time alone, or to think.. Write in a journal.. Take a long shower, give yourself the " overhaul "! LOL.
Trade with a friend of you need childcare during your birthday. Invite your friends over with their kids.

Do you really need another shirt? Swap gifts, clothes, usable items.. Give free Ebooks, or extras of your products if you sell. That also saves money, the landfills and helps the environment! Swap time, services.. maybe you and a friend can do a "spa day" at home.. do each others nails, hair, etc.
You can also do this with your daughters! It doesn't even have to be your birthday!

I would love to hear your thoughts on this...
What should I do for my birthday?
I would love to hear from other busy-moms about this issue, and hear some ideas!

Happy Birthday To Me! :)
Happy Birthday to you too!

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Finding your right path in life

I’m Terresa Roden, currently living in Milewaukee, WI (US). I’m working in a call center at the moment, enjoying the fact that I get asked if I’m a recording from time to time. It’s rather fun to greet a caller and get a brief pause when I finish only to have the caller ask if I’m a real person. My answer is usually some variation of “As far as I know they haven’t replaced me with a machine” or “Last time I looked I was a real person” followed by amused laughter from myself and the caller.
I spent most of my early life in Minnesota, first in the small town of Aitkin, going to college in Crookston and then moving to Minneapolis-St.Paul until I shifted to Milwaukee in the late 1990’s. I’ve held various jobs, usually in some type of support staff role and I currently work in a call center doing both inbound and outbound work. What makes the job satisfying to me is the fact that I get to indulge my passion for helping people. Incoming calls are for help with various companies products – placing orders, subscriptions, missed issues, etc.
In April of 2006, I turned 50 years young. At that time I began to consider my life and what I had done with it. As I looked back, I realized that I had never really answered the question “Who do I want to be when I grow up?” As I began searching myself for the answer to that question, I was also looking for ways to increase my income by finding some sort of online business. I tried several things with little success, but in that process I met several people who began to mentor and encourage me, among them Sally Witt and Kim Mutch Emerson. Both Kim and Sally were great supporters as I worked through the process of “Who do I want to be?” and suggested developing the questions I was uing for my own search into a workbook that could be of assistance to others going through the same process.
By the end of 2008, the “Uniquely Me LifeBook” first edition was completed and made available on the web as an eBook, available at my website http://www.theresaroden.com . I have created a Skype room, and a Yahoo group that are available to users of the LifeBook for ongoing support and questions.
One of my talents is “pulling rabbits out of hats” for people. In the course of conversations I often come up with “outside the box” answers to problems that people are experiencing. I look forward to developing a consulting clientele of people looking for a sounding board for brainstorming and problem-solving as part of my business.